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Women are incredibly powerful, in singular and even more so, in concert. We possess skills and abilities in our emotional vault that allow us to be incredibly compassionate and unbelievably cruel. My church recently hosted a women’s brunch where the speaker discussed how we often feel the need to crush others – men and other women – so we can feel more powerful. She urged us to realize that it is not necessary to throw our weight/power around to feel superior.

I agree. I would like to urge us all to find true uplifting. If you have to decrease the power and stature of others to lift yourself up, the growth you gain is weak and artificial, falling easily. Imagine a group of women holding hands, standing in a circle, attempting to levitate. If one must push their neighbor down to rise up, most of their energy is expended in that effort. But if we are all focused on helping our neighbor to rise, we find ourselves on the rise, seemingly with little or no effort. In helping others up we discover the strength to come up ourselves.

When the urge strikes, and it will, to put someone down, turn it around and challenge yourself to find something to say that will be uplifting for that person. When you do that, you will grow in ways you never before imagined. Also, keep in mind that the fault you find in others is likely to be one you suffer from as well. Negativity can find itself very easily. The challenge is to find the good. Anyone can point out defects. It takes character to illuminate the positive and help it grow.



Wow, Forty-four years old today. That seems awfully old, to me anyway. I don’t feel like I am in my mid 40’s – not at all. My brain is still stuck in my 20’s – hopefully my maturity level is not but sometimes…

My birthday present to myself turned out to be 15 pounds and at least one dress size. I haven’t been clothes shopping so I couldn’t say for sure. I was thinking this morning that I am a college graduate with no job (income generating anyway) but aha, that is not true! I do have a job. I am an Independent Sales Representative for Avon – the company for women!
(Of course my most important job is Mom, can’t ever lose sight of that.)

Today I will go out and hawk my wares, so to speak. I have a follow up visit to do and then some more places to visit to hand out books. My goal is to make this a full time wildly profitable venture. I am determined to stay home with my children and provide for my family. I have faced challenges before that may have seemed unsurmountable. I broke them down into bite size pieces and attacked them step by step. My first year goal is to sell enough so that 10% of it set aside will allow me to walk in next year’s Avon’s 3 day Breast Cancer Walk in my hometown San Francisco, California June 2014. Therefore I need $2300 minimum to donate as a walker, $90 for the registration fee and roughly $1100 for expenses there, airfare etc. That totals 3490 and we will call it $3500 for simplicity sake. Therefore, by next June I will need to have sold $35,000 – in eleven months time. 44 weeks to pull it off and I am 44 – is that cool or what?! On with the math, that breaks down to $795.45 per week. Lets call it $800 to simplify the math.

20 customers spending $40 or
40 customers spending $20 or
53 customers spending $15

and that is per week. Basically I need to be taking orders from at least 50 people/sources every week. Broken down into six days because Sunday should be a day of rest, not of taking orders. 9 people a day to take orders from, six days a week. In order to get 9 active customers per day I would say I need to be talking to 18 people a day.

18 a day, say 10 minute conversation, at the most, gives me 180 minutes which is 3 hours. I spend my mornings with my guys focusing on them, teaching, playing, connecting. Then when they go down for quiet time, Mommy goes to work. I will do my best to not try and do both at the same time. I don’t want my children to feel neglected or that they are not my top priority. They mean the world and are the real reason I am doing all of this.

Drive, passion, goals, dreams – they are coming alive. I see it, I can do it, by the power of The Lord that lives in me. My success will be a testament to His power, grace and loving support and of course His all powerful love.

Red Caboose Park is located at Hwy. 70 And Colicejeanne Rd., Nashville, TN 37221. The best way to get there is Hwy 40 to Hwy 70 Bellevue and go up the hill. You will pass all of the strip malls, stores, etc and then it turns residential. Shortly after you will see an intersection with three churches. That is your road. Turn right and then turn left into the first driveway. That is the parking lot.


Parking lot, Red Caboose Playground


Next door is a community center and public library: the Bellevue branch. The community center has a toddler area equipped with toys and toddler ride on toys. Its a good option if the weather does not cooperate. The library is closed on Fridays but the community center is open and the restrooms are decent.


community center toddler area




Larger view of entrance


A picnic table right outside entrance that allows you to watch your kids play while you eat.

larger picnic area

There are other tables plus a large area that is shaded where a group could congregate.


This park has alot of sturdy wooden play structures fun even for the older kids.

Overall, this park is amazing and its really the fence and seating area that make it so great. Not many playgrounds sport a good fence. This is a completely free kid venue and good place to spend the day. The community center and library have decent restrooms and there are plenty of eating establishments both up and down the hill with drive thru options so you can bring your lunch and enjoy it there.


The Mathematics of Staying Home
Sometimes I feel pressure to return to the professional workforce, especially from the hubby. From time to time he likes mentioning he is the only breadwinner and wouldn’t if be great if I got a “job”. As the hackles raise on the back of my neck, it takes work and sometime a biting of the tongue to keep from responding in a decidedly unchristian manner. I know he is concerned about finances so I try to understand. What would be effective is showing him how counter productive it would be for me to work outside the home at a typical 9 – 5.

Lets do some math – just for fun.

Pay: $14/hr x 2080 (hours in a year)=29,120
Then deduct standard expenses .
About a 15% tax rate -4368
Transportation / wear and tear/ vehicle costs -8840
Office jobs require business casual or formal- not cheap so at least -1200
Day care going rate 200 – 250/wk (twins- and that is on the low side – formal preschools run closer to 300+. -13,000
Extra food costs because no one wants to cook every night after working all day plus the cost of convenience, pre-made food, plus lunches and snacks is at least $100/wk -5,200
Here it is listed for us visual type folks:

-3,488. (that’s right, a negative number)

Bottom line, it would cost us $3,488 or more for me to get off my lazy duff and get a “job”.
(cuz you know all I do is sit on the couch, eat bon bons and watch reality tv. Isn’t that what all stay at home Moms do?) (now don’t throw things, i am just kidding)